The Esteemable Acts Blog

We teach people how to treat us!

In this month's SUCCESS Magazine, there is a wonderful article on Norman Vincent Peale. In the article, they highlighted a quote of his, "Others will unconsciously take you at your own self appraisal." So what does that mean to me? That the way we see ourselves, is the way we treat ourselves, and the way we treat ourselves is the way we teach others to treat us. If I see myself as worthless and not deserving a better life, a good job, a healthy relationship, a man (or woman) who doesn't beat me, then that's the message I will send out to the world--whether consciously or unconsciously.  So where do you start?  By acting as if.

Let the decision stand

In the law, there's a concept called Stare Decisis, which literally means, let the decision stand.  Courts often use this concept when they want to keep things the same, they call it honoring precedent. And no doubt, there are times when honoring the old way of doing things is good.  But, there are times when we must overturn the old, and usher in the new.  Today we are at a time in history and in our lives when we have the chance to let go of what no longer works--even if we are afraid of what the future will bring--and take a chance on the new.

I often think about how different my life would have been had I not risked changing the landscape--had I not been willing to overturn the old ways of thinking and believing in my life--and tried something new.  I wouldn't be a lawyer, I wouldn't be a coach, I wouldn't be a motivational speaker, I wouldn't be living the life I GET to live, doing the work I GET to do.

What about you?  Are you ready to overturn Stare Decisis in your life? Are you ready to let go of the old beliefs that hold you back and try something new?  Until next time, have a lovely day!